IYKYK.
Sometimes you just don’t give a fuck.
You don’t give a fuck about eating healthy, working out, getting better sleep, taking your supplements, drinking your water, getting your steps, becoming better, living healthier and being stronger. You just don’t.
Sometimes you just cannot put one ounce of energy into doing any of that stuff – because you are completely overwhelmed with everything else in your life.
As a health coach for the past 15 years, my role has evolved, gotten more complex and become much more personal. I not only train people’s bodies, but I help train their habits, manage obstacles, develop time management skills and sometimes I lend an ear for them to vent out personal struggles.
So, when I see people reaching the point of IDGAF – I start worrying. Well, until recently.
I guess I had a bit of an epiphany recently and realized that the IDGAF moments are unavoidable – it’s not a matter of IF but a matter of when. More importantly, is the matter of HOW LONG. When these “moments” turn into weeks or months – then it’s time to worry.
I bet you know people who are unhealthy, overweight, and exhausted – and it seemingly doesn’t even bother them. They just live in a perpetual state of IDGAF.
I remember having a friend when I was growing up that I spent a lot of time with – we both were overweight. Her whole family was overweight. She (and they) ate whatever they wanted whenever they wanted. No one exercised. No one ever even mentioned dieting or wanting to be smaller, or healthier, or whatever. But, in my house, dieting and the desire to lose weight was a constant. I hated being overweight. I would have given anything to be thinner. I would have given anything to not care so much about being thinner.
I didn’t really think about it much then, but now, I wonder – how come she was OK with her IDGAF mindset? What went through her head that didn’t go through mine? How was she so content with the way she looked? Now, don’t take that the wrong way – don’t judge me for thinking this way – let me explain…
I simply cannot remember a time when I wasn’t hyper aware of my pudgy body. I cannot remember a time when I wasn’t on a diet. I cannot remember a time not feeling jealous of the “skinny” girls. I cannot remember a time when I didn’t think that every fat person must also be on a diet and a constant quest to lose weight.
My childhood friend was vivacious, funny, kind, loyal, crazy and a great friend. She always had a boyfriend (and I never did). She was carefree and never seemed sad.
She was, even at that young age, confident and content.
I guess I couldn’t understand that perspective because I was being swallowed by my own insecurities and bias. Back then, there was no such thing (in my eyes/mind) as body positivity.
Today, the body positivity movement is in full swing. We can see it any day/any time all over Instagram and Facebook. We witness it on the Red Carpet and we see it in department stores. We see it on reality TV and hear about it in the biographies written by those people who live it every day.
What do you think about it? It’s definitely a polarizing topic.
Is it OK to just embrace your body for what it is?
Or should we actively try and make it “better”?
Do we value our physical health as much as we do our physical aesthetic?
Can you be overweight and healthy at the same time?
Or is a lean, muscular body the best tell-tale sign of good health?
I really believe regardless of transparency most people…deep down…want to be healthier; maybe not necessarily weigh less or have more muscles – but healthier. Don’t you think??
I coach clients who are hyper-focused on the way they look – or the way they want to look and I have as many who want their labs to improve, to be able to sleep better, to get off their blood pressure meds and just want to live a long, mobile, active, healthy life.
There were so many years that I wasted on comparing my body to someone else’s. I wasted so much time stuck chasing the superficial. And boy, do I regret it.
I can’t say that I wish I just didn’t give a fuck – because that is absolutely not true. But I am certainly embracing the moments when I can just live – eat something because I just want to – have a drink with friends because it is fun.
I know that it is BECAUSE I give fuck that I can have moments when I don’t.
Living healthy – is more than being “ON” all the time. It is a very delicate balance of having all the fucks to give with the days where there are zero left in the tank.
I encourage clients to live life. Balance and enjoy. Work hard for things you value – whether that be a smaller pair of jeans or lower cholesterol – better sleep or more family time.
Work hard.
But cut yourself some slack when a bad case of IDGAF comes to call – just be sure you find yourself a great Coach to help you keep that shit in check!!
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-XOXO
K
